Ok, this link send you to a video that had me pretty concerned when it popped up on my dash.
At first I thought it was another one of those fake hidden cam vids that standard porn companies make. Then once I watched longer that I realized that this wasn’t fake. Someone was really taping this guy without his consent.
This post has 3,500 reblogs, and I’ve yet to see a single one of them call out how fucked up this is.
And then I realized that most of the reblogs were from gay blogs, and that had me wondering.
A large part of male privilege (which is usually discussed within heterosexual parameters) is that men have been conditioned, as a part of patriarchy, to feel entitled to women’s bodies. I’ve started to notice (although I do personally believe that it’s always been there) that gay/queer men often feel just as entitled to other men’s bodies just as much as straight men feel entitled to the bodies of women.
A perfect example of this entitlement is the blog, Tap That Guy (x).
It’s a blog dedicated to pics of men, mostly taken without their consent. To be quite honest, it reminds me of Creepshots.
Now, not all of the pictures are taken without consent, but about a solid 90% of them are. These are pictures that are completely un-sexual in nature, but being sexualized by the sheer fact that they were taken by a photographer, who felt entitled to take a person’s picture without their consent, solely based on their sexual viability.
Is this a potential carry over of male privilege? In that men by nature of being men, have been bolstered by society that they are entitled to sex? Is it possible that this is an aspect of male privilege that can be recognized regardless of those that it imposes on? Is it possible to be a benefactor of male privilege as well as a victim of it?
Another this entitlement pops up is in how gay men will judge another’s body based solely on it’s sexual appeal. As if the only purpose other men have is sexual gratification. One of the most recognizable ways this has manifested itself can be in the way gay men classify each other strictly on the basis of body-type as a way to classify our sexual preferences, twinks, bears, jocks, etc. Entire sub-cultures are built upon these incredibly shallow identities are are considered an actual legitimate aspect of the gay community. As a matter of fact, it’s one of the biggest aspects of it.
Another way that I propose that male privilege manifests itself interpersonally amongst gay men is the entitlement of sex. When it comes to the dating culture, it’s common place for one to encounter sexual aggression rather quickly. Meaning, that one is forced to deal with interactions of a sexual nature almost immediately.
For example, sites like Grindr (and before anyone chimes in, yes sites like Grndr can be used as a gage of gay/queer male culture because it’s a site use solely by gay/queer men) it’s not uncommon for someone to be approached solely for sexual purposes.
These encounters can happen even without the receiving parties consent (ex: a profile stating that they’re not interested in hookups). I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been sexually approached right off the bat and have had to tell guys off because they felt they were entitled to a sexual conversation.
And not only that, but they’ll often demand that you forsake your personal comfort for the sake of expediency, the phrase “not into endless emails” is commonplace, as a means of stating that details regarding one’s potentials sexual likes and dislikes as well as sexual boundaries hinder a more timely sexually gratifying experience.
There’s a ton more I have to say about this topic, but I mainly wanted to put this out there first in hopes that people will understand where I’m coming from in regards to these topics.
Any input would be gratefully appreciated, as this is a topic that I’m still trying to flesh out in my head.