I am saying that as gays we are already shame for our sexuality. "Creepy post" that is the same thing within our community. This can relate to the bottom shaming in our community as well. Not everybody is going to be in the same thing ,but you should make people feel ashamed of it. Especially on this blog where it is suppose to wake up a community that is already broken up into pieces. Other groups get praise like Bears for masculinity , but S&M scene are seen as disgusting for what they like.
Ok look, I’m not in the mood to coddle anyone to night so if I sound a bit harsh, my apologies.
I shouldn’t have to explain how consent works. If the people within these relationships, no matter how long or short it is (fifty years or fifty seconds old) have established that that particular type of language is ok, then have at it. I don’t care.
But when you’re out and about amongst the general gay populace and find it prudent to refere to complete stranger as boys (as many do within our fabulously youth obsessed culture) you’re being creepy and infantilizing. Period.
If I was talking about BDSM community specifically, I would’ve said so, but I wasn’t. This blog references The Gay Community in general, so it should be safe to assume, that unless otherwise specified, like the consent-heavy BDSM community, is not being referenced.
And if you’ve been paying attention, we’ve already been over the issue of masculinity within our community and Bears are absolutely no acception.